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News Source: www.southasianpost.com

 Wed. July 23 2008 - More often than not, homosexuality within the South Asian community is frowned upon. But slowly, that's starting to change says a support group for gay and lesbian Sikhs in Metro Vancouver.

This year, Sher Vancouver is coming out loud and proud with its first ever float in Vancouver's annual Gay Pride Parade.

"Even we don't know what the float looks like yet," says Sher Vancouver founder, Amar Sangha.

"The woman in charge of decorating it has kept it a secret so I guess we'll all have to wait until the day of the parade to find out.

But we do know that it's not just going to be a Sikh float — it's going to be a South Asian float."

Sangha, 36, started Sher Vancouver in April after realizing that the South Asian gay community had no support group that fully understood the cultural challenges it was up against. Sher, which now has over 50 members, acts as a beacon of compassion for those struggling to come out to their families and friends.

"There is a generational difference for how Sikhs look at homosexuality," says Sangha, who lives in North Delta.

"Most younger and educated people who are familiar with Western culture are supportive. But in the end, the more people who come out of the closet, the easier I think it will be for South Asian gays to come out."

Sangha, a proud Sikh, says it was difficult to tell his family he is gay. To this day, his sexuality raises a gambit of issues, including how the family presents itself to the rest of the Sikh community, including its more traditional elements.

"My mom was supportive but my dad and his family still feel being gay is a choice," he says.

"They don't want me to be out in the media as they suffer a backlash every time I do an interview so I'm trying to tone it down."

Despite a culture that largely condemns homosexuality, there is nothing about the Sikh faith itself that takes a definitive stand on homosexuality one way or the other, says Sangha.

"The Sikh holy text isn't really solid on the issue," he explains. "It espouses tolerance and acceptance so even though it doesn't say anything about homosexuality, many people feel these values can be applied to all aspects of the human race.

"These are universal rights. They should include all gays and lesbians."

By founding Sher Vancouver and creating a strong presence in the media and in the community, Sangha hopes more gay Sikhs will be encouraged to come out.

So far, his group has raised $1,200 toward the construction of its $1,800 parade float.

"We're in a bit of a cash crunch," he admits. "Anyone interested in making a donation can e-mail me at amar_sangha@hotmail.com

-By Lucy-Claire Saunders
The South Asia Post

proud gay

guru fateh there is nothing about lust or anything being gay, it is just the way gays r. sher group is doing so good job in community i m so thanksfull to sher group it will be will help for out community to come out from closet

An odd thought (to me at least ;-)

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>>> "Though I am "attracted" to women, I could spend my whole life single and celibate because of my strong belief in Sikhi...." Since the Sikh way of life is the life of a householder — based on creating cozy homes filled with warmth, family and children, and since we are certainly not intended to be celibate, but rather to have a healthy sex life; marriage is generally smiled upon. Guru Nanak advised his Sikhs to marry and raise a family. Married life is both a powerful tool for personal and spiritual growth as well as a deep source of satisfaction. The household is the backbone of a stable society. It is known as the Grist Ashram, the highest state of living in which husband and wife live as one soul in two bodies. .....G "A sound man's heart is not shut within itself but it is always open to other people's hearts. If I am true enough, I feel the heartbeats of others above my own."

Temptation, straight or not.

Life is a tough road. The further you delve into sikhi and the more of a gursikh you become, the more the five vices will tempt you and try to sway you. Can homosexuality not be looked at as a challenge? Even though you have these desires can you not fight them as a true gursikh? Even I have temptations, but that does not mean I give into them. Though I am "attracted" to women, I could spend my whole life single and celibate because of my strong belief in Sikhi. Being born with an attraction to men is not something that is your fault or that you should be blamed for, and you can love certain men, even I have strong feelings of love for men I know, however, giving in to these temptations and indulging goes against the grain of any religion, as does giving in to straight temptation. Procreation and family life are important aspects of sikh life, do not forget that, giving into temptation is a struggle that we are to fight against, whether it be temptation of women, drugs, alcohol, meat, an unrighteous life. If i am tempted to have relations with a woman, I must fight those temptations to honour God and remain celibate, you should not view your sexual orientation as Gay, where you are attracted to men in a physical way, but rather as having no attraction to women and use that to become a celibate person possibly for your whole life, I assure you you will reap boons making this choice. Either way, some things should not be advocated under the cover of religion, if you are advocating sikhi then do not mix sexuality with it, either straight or gay, and vice virsa. Everyone struggles against temptation and lust. However, if your love for ayone is righteous and you are not pursuing a permiscuous lifestyle and waiting until after marriage to consumate then you are a true sikh. But just because I am attracted to marijuana and ciggarettes, it does not mean I will give in and use them. If I am attracted to a girl friend it does not mean I will have relations with her, sikhi is a constant fight. I am not trying to tell you to be straight, but to fight temptations your whole life, and use your sexuality to your advantage by becoming celibate, or a eunich and more holy than most straight men. Either way, it is your choice the things you do in life, I support you in your endeavours and hope nothing but the best for you. Thanks

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